The exact strategies I use to help kids struggling with emotions, and the parents who want to better understand and support them.

Download this proven framework to help your child regulate emotions, feel calmer, and build resilience. Even in the toughest moments.

For nearly 30 years, I’ve supported parents navigating daily meltdowns, helped kids calm themselves using simple tools, taught teachers emotional regulation strategies, and guided families to find more peace and connection at home. When kids struggle with big feelings, they don’t need us to fix everything — they need us to guide, listen, and show them that emotions can be managed, not feared.

Hi, I’m Ashley Costello — a psychotherapist and founder of The Resilient Kid.

I’ve spent nearly 30 years helping children and teens who are struggling emotionally, and guiding parents to feel confident and equipped in supporting them.

This free guide, Calm in the Chaos, is designed to give you practical, everyday strategies that bring more peace to your family life.

With it, you’ll have simple tools that help your child manage emotions and build lifelong resilience.

— Ashley

SARAH-JANE FALCONER

Committed to helping children build trust, empathy, and confidence in themselves.

EMILY PARKER

Supporting children’s resilience, confidence, and emotional well-being through empathy and understanding.

FIONA KENNEDY

Dedicated to empowering young people with the tools they need to become resilient, confident individuals.

Ashley is absolutely fantastic. The work she completed with our daughter was brilliant. We went from treading on eggshells around her, to enjoying her again.

— Alex, Cheshire

Honestly, this woman is exceptional. Twenty-five years as a psychotherapist and she brings such depth and insight to understanding what holds us back. The breakthroughs that happen when Ashley’s working with someone? Pure magic.

— Lee, Preston

Our son was finding school challenging, so my husband and I sought outside help. Ashley listens carefully, explains things clearly, and is generous with her time and advice. I struggled with words and phrases to use with my son, and she guided and encouraged me well. She is hugely respectful with good insights into our situation. I highly recommend her.

— Catherine, Hartford